(M&M Blog) First, I would like to thank you for writing
such a wonderful and helpful book – “Connecting Happiness and Success”. I really had quite a few “a-ha” moments while
reading it. Who would you say had the
most influence on you in regards to research for the subject matter?
(Ray White) My employees and team members had
the most influence. I started out only
teaching them how to be leaders and how to be successful. It soon became clear that they were very interested
in learning how to be happy as well.
Most of them worked way too many hours and really wanted to be
successful. But they were giving up
opportunities for happiness to get there and that was causing them to become
disenchanted with their goals and dreams.
Teaching them to focus on happiness instead and have that lead to
success was very fulfilling and made me want to share the concepts with others.
(M&M Blog) A thought popped into my head while reading the
book. Technology is a tool that can
bring us closer and in contact with more people than ever, but it seems that
same technology can also create an emptiness when you are around actual
people. How would you advise people on
the best use of technology to keep in contact?
(Ray White) That is a great point. The challenge is to strike a
balance. You need human contact and
positive relationships to be happy. It
is one of the strongest findings in the research. If you use technology to augment those
relationships rather than replace them then you improve your relationships and
become happier. When you replace that
contact with technology then you become less happy. In other words a few good friends that you
keep in contact with on Facebook is good.
1000 friends on Facebook and no time for real life personal interaction
is bad. As a side note: studies show that using Facebook actually
makes you less happy because people usually post their best moments. So you are comparing your average life to
their best moments and it doesn’t measure up.
(M&M Blog) What are some of your favorite things to do when
you start to feel that you are not quite as happy as you could be?
(Ray White) I have a list of about 50 things. But my go to actions are:
1.
Think about my kids
2.
Think about what I am grateful for
3.
Think about our vacations - past or future.
4.
Think of something good that happened today or
yesterday
5.
And of course – use the MyHappiness app.
(M&M Blog) What was your favorite part of writing this
book? What was the biggest challenge you
had to overcome to finish it?
(Ray White) I really enjoyed the process of working on happiness and
success every day. It was a great way to
start the day and it became a habit. I
still get up every morning and write about or work on something to do with
happiness and success.
(M&M Blog)
What are the two “happiest and successful”
moments of your life so far?
(Ray White) Getting married and having kids are at the top. I have now been married 25 years and have 3
great teenagers. Publishing the book and
hitting #1 on an Amazon best-seller list were recent big events. But I try to be happy and successful every
day. If I can find one reason to be
happy and one action to take that will make me successful each day, then when I
look back, I will see a very happy and successful day, year, and life.
(M&M Blog) If you could go back in time and have a
discussion with yourself when you were just starting to think about writing
this book, what advice would you give yourself?
(Ray White) Believe in yourself.
I started with low expectations of one person reading my book and
hopefully being helped. But as I have
gone through the process, I have met hundreds of interested and more
importantly, interesting people, and thousands of people have listened to my
speeches or read my book. I found people
with common beliefs and values and it is great working with all of them.
(M&M Blog) You did a fabulous job in the book laying out
actions that can be taken by the reader, along with worksheets. What other resources would you recommend your
readers look into that fit the theme and teachings from your book?
(Ray White) Thanks for your kind words.
We also have the MyHappiness App which can be downloaded on iphone or
Android by searching for MyHappiness (one word) in your app store. You can also visit Myhappiness.io.