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1. This
book had to be a difficult one to write. How were you able to keep
focused and stay in a positive frame of mind while working on this?
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I
wrote this book because Alexia’s dad said his only regret was that
Alexia would no longer be able to share with the world. So I started
the book to help them. I also wanted to keep myself from getting caught
up in my sadness and despair. We felt that honoring Alexia and doing
something she would be proud of would be a better course than feeling
sorry for myself. The more I researched and wrote the more I got to
remember and learn more about what a wonderful person
she was. It turned out to be very cathartic. Every time someone
comments that they felt like they knew Alexia, it makes it all
worthwhile.
2. Out of all of the lessons you present - can you pick two as to ones that can get people moving in a leadership role right away if implemented?
Lesson
#1 – Create Leadership Habits and Lesson #50 – Create Time for Family
and Friends are really good bookends that can get
you started. Everything else fits comfortably in the middle. We have
included 50 lessons in the book and if you have to remember all of them,
you will have a tough time just being yourself. If you create habits,
then over time you become a great leader without
thinking about it. Also, the most important action you can take as a
leader is to create a solid support group with your friends and family.
They will be there for you when no one will listen and when you reach
your highest heights. Make time for them and
your example will be the keystone of your leadership.
3. This is your second book that you have out. Were things easier this time around, or just as difficult as the first time?
This
book was a lot easier because of all the difficult lessons I learned
with the first book. I was able to utilize all the contacts
I had made with the first book and had insights into shortcuts that
made everything a little easier. I also had a co-author, Austin, who
helped me research, collect info, and write. Everything is better with a
partner.
4. You had a personal relationship with Alexia in the sense that you were a mentor. What lesson has she taught you, even though she was the mentee?
Alexia gave unconditionally. Although I know the importance of that intellectually, her authenticity was a constant inspiration
for me to get better at giving more.
5. Have the lessons that seemed to have been passed to her friends and colleagues seem to have "stuck" with them?
That
was the fantastic part of writing this book. It turned out that Alexia
touched so many more people than any of us ever imagined.
She never asked for or in any way wanted recognition or praise. But
when we started talking to people they were all deeply touched by her in
ways that truly altered their lives. One of the blessings of the book
was that we were able to capture and bring to
light these selected examples. There were many more that we just
didn’t have the room to include, and I am sure many we never heard
about. I know that personally she has had a lasting influence on my life
and the lives of my children who also knew her and
learned from her.
6. What is next on the horizon for Ray White?
We
are currently do research for a book on how to create happier company
cultures. We are also encouraging people to download our
free Happiness App. Search MyHappiness on Android or Apple App stores
or MyHappiness.io